the fact that people feel so free to say whatever they think about how a woman looks is way too normalized and it starts very early in a girls life. people make it very clear that they don't hear you, they don't care about what you have to contribute in talent or thought, they just care about how you look. if you dont look a certain way you're entire existence is invalidated. trust me I grew up ugly and some still see me as such and have made that abundantly clear. regardless, I don't think I'm