In Gestalt therapy, one of our primary pillars from which we conceptualize and intervene from is called the paradoxical theory of change. It’s similar to what Carl Rogers referenced in the curious paradox of accepting himself as he was and then being able to change. The paradoxical theory of change postulates that the more we try to force change from a place or self-hatred and without awareness of “what is” the more we stay the same. It’s only from knowing the essence of who we’re are, where we